Drama is tough to avoid with her!! My thing did not go so well!! I changed the home phone and she called me freaking out!! She said just so I know, I am not leaving YOUR house!! She is pissed. I was calm and stated my boundary again. I did slip a few times and say the wrong thing. I did not want to even talk about it. Now she is being nasty.
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
We do have spew jackets on sale ... I suggest you buy one. When the boundaries are initially enforced the WAS gets pretty upset and will spew a good deal testing to see if you will seriously hold your ground.
Well the cat is out of the bag!! Older D got a text from wife that I was kicking her out. D called me and wated to know everything that was going on. I told her that I can't lie anymore!! So I told daughter everything that has been happening. EVERYTHING!!
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
Well the cat is out of the bag!! Older D got a text from wife that I was kicking her out. D called me and wated to know everything that was going on. I told her that I can't lie anymore!! So I told daughter everything that has been happening. EVERYTHING!!
Joe, this is stopping enabling W. I know this is a big change and now you need have no secrets. Your boundaries are clear on this and firm. Repeat them to yourself and keep enforcing.
Remember W behaviour, no name calling W.! Hold your head up with pride on this.
I will keep checking in until a Vet joins us.
V
Last edited by Vanilla; 03/11/1508:50 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
D could completely understand why I have been upset. Wife told her the other day that I am controlling her life.
I have been completely civil with the conversation. I just told her that I am choosing to not be a part of this kind of lifestyle. Wife was pissed that I never told her that I was coaching daughters basketball games or that I am planning to play golf this summer. I told her that she wanted space and acted like she did not want to be in a marriage, so I just started doing my thing.
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
No need to explain yourself, you will distract from the core boundary issue.
The rest is noise. W did WW for reasons other than you coaching basketball or playing golf! Your boundary is yours and as long as W can chose her consequence this is not being controlling. It is protecting your own core.
Breathe, a corner has been turned.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
