Tenbook, I have not read Five Languages of Love. I have seen the author's website and I will pick up the book.
I discussed the boundaries with my coach on our first call. However, she crossed one boundary last night and this morning. I asked her to leave the house after breaking the second boundary.
Very good. As hard as it is, you HAVE to follow through on the consequences. Otherwise, it's not really a boundary but more like a "geeIwishyouwouldn't."
Ending the sex is probably a good thing, as it seems to be messing with your detachment. I sure hope you were using protection when you guys were ML?
Sorry for this turn in your sitch, Closer, but it's never over until it's over. My wife and I went as far as separation, dating others, and meeting with a divorce mediator and divvying up all the holidays, birthdays, etc. before pulling back from the D abyss. It can be done. For now, however, you have to let her go and miss you.
