[gogofo]

'I'm not saying I'm not attracted to you, I'm saying I want to ML in a sober, loving way'. How do I get that message across to H?

Tell me if I am wrong, but why not say this ^ to him? Would direct communication be so bad? I know if I was told this I would refuse the best bottle of wine in the world. Maybe say it in a teasing way, but remain serious about it. You do deserve to ML in a loving way.

I was going to suggest cooking something special for BD. This is what my XW and I would do all the time. I think it lets the other person know how special they are to you.

He seems to love you cooking and it is something that he could not get anywhere else.

If he is into cars and racing, etc, maybe share this video with him. It is one of the most infamous car videos ever made. Don't know if he has watched it before or not. Maybe something like "I ran across this video today and it reminded me of something you would like. Enjoy while I cook dinner."

vimeo.com/34039780

You could also accidentally work in some seductive moves like bend over at the waist to look into the oven instead of squatting down. Wear a great perfume and lean across him really close as you serve him the dinner. Keep up with some light flirting.