But you know that she is doing this now. I agree with Sandi on this.
Your kids have an R with their mother, this is your boundary trampled on and by keeping this a secret then I think you are enabling W to continue. Let your kids deal with their R with their mother, but it is important that Joe says he is unhappy with W behaviour but that he stays away from condemnation of W with her children.
Joe separate W behaviour from W as a person. Condemn the behaviour not the person. I am trying to do this with my H, condemn the abusive behaviour not H. It is hard and tempting to do otherwise.
I used to foster and have had to help children face and come to terms with some terrible behaviour of their parents. Including drug abuse, prostitution and alcohol use. Children are more resilient than you think, if you have a strategy for dealing with your children and protecting them from harm including letting them have their feelings on this, then it will be helpful to preplan.
This exotic and wayward behaviour of W will be evident eventually, this way then you can be prepared.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
