I think a key thing for me is employment. I am self employed. Previously working around kids at school, being home etc appeared great. Pay wasn't to hot cos it is basically part time work. W resented this because she worked FT and had to leave early and/or get home late. I think the biggest 180 I could do is get a regular job with a steadier wage. That would be better for myself right now but also leave me less time to ponder things, show I'm moving on/making changes...and it is something she mentioned just a week or two ago when I'd said I had applied for a job.
Haven't seen a situation yet where this didn't make a difference to a woman, but keep in mind: you should be doing these things for YOU, not for her. Do them because they make YOU a better person, and a more attractive mate, to SOMEONE. If that happens to be your wife, then all the better.
Your ACTIVITIES are in line; your FOCUS is still too wife-centered.
