Alpha and WAW - part 2

[alpha99]

Well, after a bad day yesterday so begins a good one today. I feel a lot stronger today. I had a very good sleep for once. I got back late from the poker and the emotions of the day must have helped to flatten me out come bed time.

Had a good interaction with W this morning as I picked kids up. I've been reading DR alot and also thinking about validation, cheerleading and other techniques to use in my brief interactions with W as part of my LRT attempt. Of.course it's too early to say but I think I'm finding my stride now. Validated wife over her shift and getting rest, also over her coursework in her job training. She might get into trouble because she is not keeping up to date with
her coursework. I said 'that's not fair, surely they could give you a bit more time? She agreed. She showed me kids' sample school photos so I could pick out what I wanted. She seemed quite pleasant considering.

I also tried to act as if. I got an immediate response. As I approached the door to knock on it, I thought about how W would probably open the door and scowl or look away, or generally not be too welcoming. I thought about how if she was happy to see me I would knock on the door, and once it was opened I would smile and give her a big warm, hello, good morning. That's exactly what I did. She was clearly going to open the door in her 'oh you're here' manner when she caught sight on my big hello and it prompted her to change her demeanour and respond almost in kind, with a vaguely warm good morning. Questions from me about school and kids followed in an upbeat manner, and the conversation went well.

I thoroughly expect in the short term for something to jump out and catch me off guard, like the house sale or mention of the big D, but I am trying to prepare myself for that so we don't have a repeat of yesterday - lovingly detached is the key here.