I have to just stop trying to have conversations with him. Every time I think I am being rational and stating a boundary it ends up disintegrating to low blows and tirades (from me mostly because he is so good at just being annoyingly silent). This time I just had to tell him that I don't like D hanging out in OW's classroom after school. I probably shouldn't have even brought it up. I should probably just let it go and allow things to happen whether I like it or not. I didn't like his reaction and I took the bait.

I want to leave. But I want to take the kids with me. I don't want to live here anymore, but I don't want to leave the kids behind. I couldn't get in touch with the lawyer yesterday, hopefully today I will be able to. I have to get this done as fast as possible because the longer we are living in the same house the harder it is to not react based on my emotions.

ETA and after this conversation I am starting to think that OW isn't really an OW, but a tool he is using to make me feel insecure. I think his fear is that I will confront her again because it will make work more uncomfortable for him. He should have thought about that before he started using her to hurt me.

Last edited by mustardseed; 03/11/15 10:45 AM.
40s 2teens M14Y
BD-10/12/13 rec-1/14
BD2-5/14 rec2-9/14
EA disc-10/14 4/15-BD 3 and triangulation ensues
Served with D6/15 MS forced to leave7/15
D agreement signed 8/16 final 5/17