Than you Jb, Karma and Z

The more I learn about this abuse issue the more I begin to understand. The abuse that I have endured is quite serious. I had a chat line talk with the abuseline so I can get the name of a therapist for me.

The helpline adviser told me that physical violence is easier to deal with and that women eventually leave their partners. Psychological abuse can last a lifetime.

Well not in my case it ceases now.

I sat up all night reading, they say that when the student is ready to learn a teacher comes.

What have I learned?
1. Abuse is more common than we think
2. Abuse is irrespective of race, gender, social status and fins
3. Abuse is about power and control over another
4. Abuse is about entitlement enforced by aggression
5. Abuse is not about anger
6. Abuse releases tension for the abuser and abusers like abusing as it releases serotonin
7. Abusers can normally negotiate with the world and reserve abuse for their partners and 'loved ones'
8. Abuse has a cycle which only the subject of the abuse can break
9. It takes between 35 and 50 serious abuse incidents before the subject says STOP
10. Abuse escalates when the subject returns to the R
11. Abusers have little insight into abuse (as apparently did I)

I am taking the next three days off to read, think and pray. Then I go dancing, yipppeeee.

Please excuse if I am a little lax in posting, there is a lot of practical issues to tackle.

I am going to find a hairdresser and have my hair fixed today.

V

Last edited by Vanilla; 03/11/15 09:15 AM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW