Oh Mighty I so get where you are - my xh did the same thing - needed to have discussions with OW about closure and doing the right thing by her. Then he went back.
And yes all of those feelings roiling around. It is like an angry sea. But it does settle down, I promise.
I think I felt incredulity, looking back. That this person could act like this. But here is what I think. We are part of their DNA. There is no separation in their minds from us (Weird I know) and so they have never wholly left us. I am not sure if this is true for all MLCers but it seems true of some.
The sense of him feeling there is still an unacknowledged link is so apparent in my recent interactions with my xh. Not so much in what he said but what was not said, and how he acted.
They are acting out. The damage is huge and by the time they realise it (if they do) it is hard to put right.
