Hi PINK - still in touch with the lady from Paris is a big red flag for me. Are you willing to invest your time and energy into MC, whilst H continues contact with OW?

Have a look at Zues' recent post on addiction cycles on 3 Kids' thread to see where I'm coming from...

Sorry to come in with this, but I worry that MC may not be a good way forward whilst your H wants to save the M - AND - continue something with OW. IMHO, he needs to be ready to end that contact... And from your perspective, it may be time to state a firm boundary on that..

Just MHO BTW, and I'm so pleased things are taking a positive turn for you guys...x

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus