Oh ok your H is still having an A. Well that eradicates my thought of at least letting him briefly know how you feel about the situation.
Otherwise I'd have said sth like you will never ever reconcile if you never have contact or so. Not saying you should pursue him but I assume WAS's often 'erase' that their spouse actually doesn't want this.

And yes, your H must be crazy.
Do you actually ever imagine yourself with someone else than your H?

Me 32 (German) Wife 28
T 3yrs M 2yrs
Moved to US for W
No kids
BD 6/2014
In house separation
Confirmed EA 1/2015
(ongoing since BD)
OM not ready
Real D talk started 1/27/15