Need Help!!!

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Well we had a phone conversation for about an hour. W stated that this weekend she wants me to start training her to do all the finances for the Dental Office. She also stated that it is time to set up separate bank accounts and credit cards. Do I just go along with it or try to extend it?

W told me I am still trying to control her through finances. The thing that set this off was she signed up to do a run and paid using our credit card. Well she did not tell me this and I saw a strange charge on the account today and it said it was from NJ. Well since I was just in NJ this weekend I thought someone may have stole my credit card number while I was up there. So I called up the CC company and found out it was for a race here in WV. So I told W that story and she took it as me controlling her.

So of course she started on her rampage that we are so done and that I will be getting served in the next couple days and she can't wait to get away from me once this is final. I never showed any emotion to that I just said that I thought we would always be friends and she is not allowing that to happen. She told me we can't be friends because I will always want more than that.

Here is where I made a critical mistake. I asked her if there was someone else. She said no. I said I am not asking you to get mad at you I just need to know because if there is I think it is unfair for me to be lied to. I do think if I found out there was someone else I would then move on from her.

She still holds firm that she doesn't like hanging out with the girls that she hangs out with or talks to and that is why she rotates them so often. But also she can never go back to me. I asked her if she is happy now, she said she really is a homebody but forces herself to do things because she would go crazy in the house all alone. But can't go back to living life with me ever again either.

I saw some signs of life in our conversation but it wouldn't be the first time that happened, only to have her wake up the next day mad as can be. Of course her first patient of the day tomorrow is her divorce attorney. Just my luck.

Next week my D14 will be away again cheering for the Boys Basketball team. I am going for the entire week with D14 for that. W said she is going to come up for the weekend. She said we can hang out the whole time we are there but can not stay in the same room. Which I kind of assumed would be the case anyways.