Someone please help me with a plan of action!

[rustbkt]

Thanks everyone for all the advice. I was waiting for an email to show up regarding my first post. Newcomer to message boards lol.

So regarding Starsky's post about how I responded each time she would pull back, I guess I would have to say I got angry with her for doing this. I sat there stone faced when she said ILYBINILWY and I asked her why and she said that I should know why. I had a hard time understanding why my wife of 30 years could do such a thing after all that we have been through. I also believe she was announcing this because I kept asking her why she was doing this to me. It was like everything was a bad joke to me and she was testing me and that everything would go back to normal again.

You also ask if i'm afraid of my wife and I would have to say yes. My wife wears the pants in our house. I let her because if I didn't we would have issues all the time. I am afraid of her because she can get very angry when we have an argument. I would rather keep quiet and let things blow over most of the time.

Today she went shopping after work with our D22. This is a pattern that she has started, her way of avoiding me now. Little things just to get out if the house. She also has a very loving side to her that I have not seen in a long time and I miss my real wife. I'm afraid that if I pull back this will make my wife happy and she will pull away even more.

I have been reading Divorce Remedy and trying to set some goals.