Complex No. 6 - The turtle and the rabbit

[25yearsmlc]

Complex, the more I follow your sitch and learn about these interactions, the more I'm convinced that your challenge is more of a "career path" one than a "marriage/infidelity' one.

I think if your wife were more convinced of your likelihood for success and stability, she'd be back with you by now. HOWEVER, you need to decide if you want to be married to someone who -- when she doesn't feel secure financially -- not only cuts and runs, but runs to another MAN.

Starsky

This is true...and it's fair. But to be completely accurate, is it so weird for a woman to want to be with a man who can put a roof over her head and food on the table, when she wants to be a mother soon?

And fair or not, most surveys show that most women DO prefer the option of not having to work when they have children, over a life wherein they will have to work a lot even when they become a mother. They at least want the option...

We want men who are stronger than we are (physically at least), who can protect us in the home & on the street, and who can provide for us.

The 2 biggest traits women value in a husband are "security" which means financial and physical (which is why a man who hits or is frequently out of work, often ends up divorced) and fidelity.

Men want an attractive spouse (impossible to do if compared with women half our age) and "peace in the home", which presumably means to stop nagging and not have too much drama.

My feminist friends might detest these results^^ but I think they are fairly reflective of reality.
I used to think men had it worse and sometimes I still feel that way. But as I see so many younger women with older men, and older women with...no one, I now question who really has it the best.

Anyhow, I'd put A LOT of energy into my career if I were you.

REMEMBER She saw you change for the worse in this regard, so you can repair that a lot easier than most.

Make sense?