Old dog seeks new trick 10

[Old Dog]

Thanks Wonka. I've just come back from seeing my IC where I discussed the marital bed / sleeping arrangements and no OM boundary.

We decided after going through it, that it would be better for me to move out of the bedroom. I know it would send a more powerful message to kick her out but actually I would rather have it this way round. I don't want to be hindered by her being in eiher the kitchen or the living room.

There won't be much opportunity to set a no OM boundary before the op anyway. Though it would pile on the pressure a bit more (see below). I have photos of the cards and 'sex bond' for evidence. I don't know if there is anything else: there may be but I haven't looked.

After I cam back from seeing my IC I called home to speak to S12. He's got this plan to mod his Sony PS3 so we were talking about it. Then WW got on the phone while S12 went to get S15.

She asked about my plans next Monday, the day before the op. She would like me to come home to help on the day as she is feeling stresed about it.

My plan was to go straight to the hospital from my flat because I was going to buy a car I had my eye on. Unfortunately it's been sold so I will have the day free after all. She doesn't know what my plan was and asked if I was intending to work that day. I said no.

She then in a very halting and hesitant manner told me that it would be good if I could come home to help preparation, even if it's just for the afternoon. She's going into work, the cat needs to go to the cattery, she feels ucomfortable leaving S12 at home waiting for my brother or his wife to pick him up. He's going to stay with them for a couple of nights with them dropping him off at school and picking him up again later. He will have to wait a little to be picked up, but he has an hour and half wat until WW gets home normally.

I listened to this and it would have been a good opportunity to validate but I've only just thought of it. Doh! I did 'ah ha' and acknowledge while she was speaking though, and then I said I'll consider it.

She seemed to be a bit peeved about this saying it's not a normal day and if she had to do everything she wouldn't be at her best for S15. I was very calm and direct on the phone and feel pleased with how I handled it, apart from not validating.

So I'd like to pile on the pressure a bit but I do have to conside S15 in this as he is the most important person this week.