Anxiously waiting for it to fall apart

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There are several things that everyone finds difficult when they come here and they are: detachment, patience and "expectation". Please try to stop expecting him to do things. He's not the same person that he once was and quite frankly when you are expecting things from him, he may very well turn the project into a passive-aggressive mess. I know this is difficult, but you need to accept him for the man he is right now, not what he once was. He's a man child and he's going to do whatever it takes to make himself feel better, i.e., addictions come to mind such as workaholic, focusing on sports, gardening, fishing, partying, drinking drugs, ow/om gambling and spending. It's true happiness comes from within, but your man child needs to discover this for himself.

You may try to get him to remain in the country where you are at, but push come to shove, if he feels too much pressure from outside sources, he may just up and pack a bag and flee when you least expect it. The best to do as a "project manager" is to leave him completely alone. Yes, you want him to participate in family things and do things around the home, but don't be surprised when he does them half @ss or not at all. MLCers do not like to be told what to do or when to do it.

I'm glad to see you've signed up for a course. It's a step forward for you and hopefully you'll find work at a later time.