I am unsure if this is of any help, but Hidden Hurt is a charity for UK Domestic Abuse Victims which is full of information and links. It is part funded by Victim Support and has a web site.

I was given the pamphlets yesterday, in fact I walked away with a library of material and some borrowed books (which I will need to return).

Hidden Hurt the Abuse Cycle

I am told the important thing is to remain outside of the honeymoon phase and maintain boundaries. Apparently failure to manipulate causes the abuser to rethink their strategy.

H will be offered anger management as a matter of course, if he turns this down then that will be a contra indicator if he continues the cycle.

I feel a little numb and overwhelmed by all this, it has moved so fast. It might also make H very angry and enraged too. I can use my CBT of watch and deflect (with my Perspex shield). The one very good thing I learned was the value of evidence and to keep an abuse diary. I have a journal but it has lots of random stuff in it, recipes, invoicing, car breakdowns etc.

It will unfold in time, stuff always does.

V

Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW