Card29 X - Let It Be

[Card29]

uR, I really am doing well. Just finished a solo, 5 day, 2,500 mile, open-ended road trip. I was worried I would be lonely or bored, but I noticed that I was really starting to unwind and find perspective towards the end of it. I think I really could have used 2 weeks and 6,000 miles! But I was glad to get back to D2, plus I'm out of vacation days haha

Vanilla, thanks for responding. Sorry that the man cave, or some ideas on it, got out of hand. As far as what was enlightening to me, it was some specific advice from jcred regarding what he has found attractive and unattractive for women. I don't intend to be a pick-up artist, so I'm not looking for ways to score on a Friday night. And I no longer believe WAW left me simply because she found me "unattractive" -- there were many issues, some out of my control. With that said, I obviously was misdirected as I was growing into an adult for what many women want.

I didn't lack confidence when I met and started dating WAW. But she was very strong-willed and also very easily upset. Some of the smallest purterbations would cause a day or a trip to be ruined. On the other hand, I am extremely easy-going and began defaulting to her opinion or decision more and more frequently. Eventually, she simply "wore the pants". I thought I was being the perfect little H, but now I know that most women don't want their man to be like that. I'm not saying I need to dominate whoever I'm with next, but I don't want to go back to being that guy. The man cave didn't really enlighten all of that by itself -- I'd read it and seen it in many places since June. But some of the things he said, since they were coming from such a personal level, stuck with me.

Other parts of the man cave were just reminders to me of how I was before things starting getting muddy with WAW years ago. I used to be confident and make girls laugh. I was also reminded that real women aren't super attracted to the stereotypical, emotion-pouring, heart-on-sleeve, crying-in-a-rainstorm-outside-of-their-bedroom-window guys from Hollywood chick flicks. I'm not saying I've ever been that extreme! But it was a practical reminder not to even walk down a path like that, especially early in a courtship.