V, have you thought about how you will handle if H pledges to change and begs you to come back? Are you prepared for this? I am sure you are in good hands with your counselors and other support groups and you certainly sound like you're in a good place right now. Been thinking of you.
What makes you think that might happen?
And my suggestion would to believe nothing that he says and half of what he does.
I would add that it will take years and years of H to dismantle his abusive patterns which can be only achieved through intensive IC and group therapy. It has been done with former abusers who have seen the light and put forth the effort to change.
