For Newcomer LBH with a Wayward Wife

[Miman2]

Thanks for the reply and the suggestions sandi,

that's basically how i was feeling about what to do when she visits

she already did a quick grab of personal items about 2 weeks ago. Now she's coming back to grab cookware for her new apt and visit the cats. she texted last thursday around midnight asking if i was awake, i called her friday and we talked a bit. but basically she was checking to see if the cats were okay, if i was okay and if she could grab pots and pans.

She already told me she didn't want any furniture, so i suppose letting her have some cookware isn't too out of reason. It's hard to know when to use the tough love approach vs. the kind and happy approach with the Wayward Spouse.