Wife having emotional affair 5

[3kids]

Zues all I can say is wow. What a great post! I'm ashamed to addmitt this but when I was a teenager I dealt with a drug problem. So I know what your talking about. It wasn't until I overdosed and asked for help from my parents. That I got the help I needed. They locked me up for a of awhile and sent me to rehab. So trust me I understand addiction.

Things took a big turn yesterday. Some great news came from our realtor. Do to a bank error. I don't think we will be looking at anything to serious on a short sale of our old house. I have to talk to an accountant to totally understand every thing. But the way it sounds. We will be walking away from our house with money in our pocket and free and clear of every thing else. So that's really really great news.

The bad news is the buyer now wants to close early. Like today if he could. This puts the wife in a corner. She probably has a week maybe two to find a place for her and the kids. With nothing in her check book and no savings. Right now she is against the wall.

I got so excited with the news yesterday. I went over to the old house and started packing up the rest of my stuff. I really wasn't thinking about the wife or anything. Just pure excitement to be done with this whole house ordeal. I walked into the house and there was the wife, with her head down and crying. I found out a lot. She dumped OM. I think this one is for real. I could even feel the hatred coming from her voice when she briefly talked about boxing up his crap and dropping it off. Right now she is like a cornered animal that doesn't know where to go. She doesn't have any clue in which way to turn. She does not want to jump into my place so she is thinking about living with family for this moment.

I did offer my couch and a place for her to stay. As for her stuff she could put it in my shed if she decided to. I have a great group of friends where I could gut the place in two days. The kids could stay with me full time if need be and she could get them when ever. This is all stuff I would do for a friend or coworker anytime. Let alone my kids mom.

Sandi, I validated and offered a place to stay. I listened and kept my emotions under control. I said yes to counseling and keeping the best interests of the kids in mind. The I did the best thing I could have done. I repeated back to her what I had heard from her. And at this point is, she is done with OM, she is thinking about us as a family but wants to take things very cautiously because with the kids, would like to discuss counseling not only for us but in a big way for her, she realizes that she has to be happy for us to even have a chance. These are positive steps.

But with the short notice on the house, this all might get put off for a little. I think I have moved from a WAW in a affair to just a WAW. But I'm keeping my same way of doing things and letting her lead. Right now it's what's best for ME and my KIDS.

PM he sweet spot is very difficult right now! Just can't push to hard or offer to much. With her depression who knows what will happen?

I just have to say Zues what a powerful post.

If you all think I'm doing something wrong let me know. Because advise is always welcome!

Thanks as always
3kids