Newbie needs advice and encouragement

[Kramer]

I am posting again, and sincerely hope for some feedback.

As mentioned earlier, my wife has now officially moved out into her own place, and filed for divorce in January 2015, although I STILL do not have papers. She continues with her affair, and he is "the love of her life". Sandi posted an excellent entry regarding wayward wife, which is what my wife truly is.

She continues to rewrite history, and is telling everyone how she has been unhappy for years, how controlling and selfish I have been over the years, and that this divorce has been a long time in coming. She fails to mention all of the fun times we had together as a family, how we raised 9 children together in a loving home, how I stayed with her as support during years of legal issues with her children, and much more. I'm sure her plan is to give it enough time so that she can introduce OM, and tell people that they got together after she divorced me.

I am still up and down with my emotions, but am now accepting that our marriage is over, and that the woman that I married is no longer there. We have separated accounts and bills, and are moving forward in this manner. I am still very sad and hold out whatever slim hope there is for reconciliation, but I am also a realist and must deal with what is, not what I wish.

Here's my question:

Is it normal for WW to completely turn their back on everything related to the marriage? She has not contacted my children or grandchildren since I discovered her affair, and they were always so close. My daughter's birthday was yesteday, and not even a text from my wife. She left behind all of our pictures when she left, and even the clothes that she wore on our vacations. This just seems so angry, spiteful, sad, and selfish on so many levels.

I suppose a silver lining would be that this behavior convinces me that my wife is no longer who I thought she was, and I do not like the person that has replaced her.