At the teacher conference meeting, the teacher noted that our d6 is having some socializing problems. On the way home, we talked about it briefly and she said "I hate my Life" which made me feel awful. I asked specifically what I could do to help, and she mentioned a few things, but said I want you and Mom back together again. I said Oh Sweetie I don't know if that is going to happen, but you do know that I love you and S9 very very much and I will always be your Mommy. You know that right? She said yes.
I am so angry at my WAW who gives less than a flip about how much she has hurt our "lifeless going nowhere" marriage. Those were her words I might add.
I mentioned this to my WAW and asked her to call and speak to our D6 which she did. I talked to her briefly and made no mention of her A which could be viewed as pressure or blame. I referred to it as the situation.
Again, I hope I did the right thing. I reread DB and it was very clear not to assign blame or put pressure on the WAW in any way.
I think I am getting better with the DB principles. Although it hurts like hell and I am angry, I am working through these emotions on my time and in my own way. mainly taking deep breaths, recognizing the situation as a potential conflict and letting it drop. I validated and that was it.
I made a play date with my d6's best friend for today and she was very very happy about that. I will work on spending special time with her and making sure she feels loved.
