Hi Miman, I am not familiar with your stitch. I will read it as soon as I can. Your W has a right to all of her personal things. The household items should be agreed upon, if the two of you are living in separate houses.
I suggest you have something planned ahead to keep you busy while she's there, maybe even do something in another room. Don't shut the door, and don't act cold/mean/angry. Just do something other than stand around watching her and acting as if you care.
She may be curious and ask questions while she is there, so give vague answers, but don't lie about anything. Answer with short sentences, rather than rambling on & on.
Hey, you are busy.....preoccupied, and really aren't all that interested in what she's doing.
As for carrying heavy things out to her car, sure you can do it. You aren't suppose to be jerk. Just don't trip over your own feet by trying so hard to be attentive & helpful. Make sense?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
