Don't see how I can win this.

[EyeTie]

Question to group

As she is ill, should I enquire about her health and well being? Half of me wants to and the other half does not.

I don't want to appear uncaring but my gut tells me this is a natural consequence of her wayward actions and activities.

Thoughts from the peanut gallery?

I wouldn't bother. Back in January my wife came down with the shingles, I spent 4 days at her bedside (even though I was sleeping downstairs), took care of her, took care of the kids, took care of the house, hoping she would have an "ah-ha" moment and realize that a divorce was not the solution. Nothing changed. I later found out she was texting the OM every time I walked out of the bedroom, saying she wished he was there to take care of her. It meant nothing to her that I was bending over backwards for her.

So from my experience, I wouldn't do anything, I wouldn't say anything, you already mentioned it, leave it alone.