I could be wrong, but common sense at least tells me that the more W comes out of her own little bubble and sees things like A pic on her FB page, his arm around her, helping her paint the interior of her store, the more the reality will settle-in that he's not all she fantasized him to be. It will probably have a lot to do with her own mentality: The more she detaches from him (which will happen in time, even without much effort on her part, as long as she steers clear from physical interaction), the less those things will bother her. It's exactly the same as we actually make the effort to do here when we "go dark" and begin to detach. Know what I mean?
I agree with this, eventually. ONCE a wayward spouse is over their OM/OW and fully out of the withdrawal stage (both "hard" and "soft" withdrawal). Because then, they have already fully or nearly-fully opened up to their betrayed spouse emotionally, and are fully "over" their OP, and able to see these "warts" you point out here, Train.
However, I don't think the fetching Mrs. Rzr is NEAR there yet, and I'd prefer to see full NC. In her current emotional state, I do see some risk that even negative encounters will count merely as encounters, and set her withdrawal "clock" back. It's not ideal, but it's good that she told Rzr the guy was coming to town, and good that she told him that she she encountered him today.
