I could be wrong, but common sense at least tells me that the more W comes out of her own little bubble and sees things like A pic on her FB page, his arm around her, helping her paint the interior of her store, the more the reality will settle-in that he's not all she fantasized him to be. It will probably have a lot to do with her own mentality: The more she detaches from him (which will happen in time, even without much effort on her part, as long as she steers clear from physical interaction), the less those things will bother her. It's exactly the same as we actually make the effort to do here when we "go dark" and begin to detach. Know what I mean?
I hope that's the case. I would like to see all contact, even passive contact, stop entirely. My thought is that anything like that will keep emotions stirred up. Do I see signs that her feelings about OM aren't as intense? Yes. I just think that if she would make the break entirely that her feelings would dissipate that much more rapidly. She wants to detach from him and reconnect to me, but wants to do it "her way". Any suggestion I make that she take him off FB etc is interpreted as a demand, though even I don't see that as a nonnegotiable. I feel like she is sincere about wanting to reconnect with me, I just think that the way she's doing it is prolonging the agony, for her and for me.
Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
