Trying to Follow DB & DR

[Miman2]

Thanks Cadet.

I thought we did have boundaries, but the W seems to have had other ideas.

I'm still stumped as to how to interact with her when/if she comes over. I saw Sandi's posts on the wayward spouse and part of me thinks maybe I should take that route. She wanted out, I gave her the opportunity to stay in the apt but she went and got her own place. Now she wants to come back to visit the cats and pick up more stuff. Sandi's Wayward Spouse advice would tell me to say tough, she wanted out and wanted to make it on her own then she doesn't need to stop by. The LRT approach tells me to be friendly/cheerful and let her stop by, after all she asked to, right?