[susana4]

I guess I won't book it over H's birthday. Which brings me to oh yeah, I need to buy him a present for his birthday which is in 9 days. What the he!! are you supposed to buy your H who no longer wants to be your H, but who still lives with you and sometimes goes on not dates with you?!

Nothing. I wouldn't buy him anything. I had the same dilemma last Friday for my WAW, it was her B-Day and I was going to buy her a card, or a gift. I posted on here asking opinions and was quickly told to leave it alone. Which I did. I gave her cards from the kids, but there was nothing from me at all. I know it bothered her, but SHE was the one who chose to leave, she was the one who chose to have an A. She was the one who destroyed our family. She doesn't deserve anything. Instead I went out with some friends on her B-Day, I didn't go to her dinner party (wasn't really invited, but I know she wouldn't have minded if I had shown up) and didn't talk to her for a day or two afterwards.

Pretend it's just another day in YOUR world, because that's all it is.

I would consider that, but I think it would be incredibly rude since he gave me a very nice birthday present and took me out for dinner and drinks for it. I didn't give him anything for our anniversary, nor did I give him anything for Valentine's Day on the advice of people here and I'm glad for that, I felt it wouldn't have been appropriate. But his birthday? It's just his, not between us. I don't think I'll be invited to his dinner if he has one, and I'm not making plans for the day or anything but I think I do need to get him a present because he got me one!