Confused

[Joe46]

This forum is so confusing sometimes!! One person is telling someone to validate his wife's feelings and sitting there listening to them talk about the feelings they have for another person. Another person is telling these people to be strong and detach from their wife when they are doing this stuff. And to set boundaries. I get so confused about what is the right way to go and what is the wrong way to go. I get frustrated dealing with my situation. Am I handling it right? After reading different posts, I get more confused!! And sometimes I get that feeling that all this is hopeless!! What is the deal with all these people cheating and having EA and walking away from their marriages??