It's not fair to compare new guy to H That sort of thinking is what cause H to take off in the first place.
Fair enough. A spouse will never be able to compete with someone new. However, had H not left me, he wouldn't have had to.
Originally Posted By: bdub
The idae of not being attractive enough or good enough is an interesting topic. I have been going through this a little myself. I am stuck right now trying to decide if a lot of "not feeling attractive enough or good enough" was created in my head, and then reinforced by xw because my filters caused me to hear her words in a negative way because I was feeling unattractive.
That's possible. But it's not my filter that made me hear that I wasn't thin enough, that I would look better in something else (just as we were walking out the door), or that I somehow needed different clothes to make up for my physical shortcomings. That was just out there, nothing subtle about it. And I could have even taken that as constructive criticism had H ever given me the other side of it, if I had heard from him that I was actually beautiful, it's just that the dress didn't fit correctly. And I didn't mis-hear that, cause there was nothing to hear.
And I'm sure you are hot, bdub. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
That sort of thinking is what cause H to take off in the first place.