It's not fair to compare new guy to H That sort of thinking is what cause H to take off in the first place.
With that being said, I know exactly what you meant, and why you said it. I just have to pick on you since I have not been around in a while!
The idae of not being attractive enough or good enough is an interesting topic. I have been going through this a little myself. I am stuck right now trying to decide if a lot of "not feeling attractive enough or good enough" was created in my head, and then reinforced by xw because my filters caused me to hear her words in a negative way because I was feeling unattractive.
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That sort of thinking is what cause H to take off in the first place.