In 2011 we bought a house and put a large part of our savings into renovating it. Then 2012 shortly after renovating he was abruptly replaced. However was in a new job within 4 mos Then last year he reported to a guy who was a complete jerk. He felt like he was going to battle every day at work. He is so work focused.
H is a big idea person - He hates it when I pressure him for a plan or process. In our relationship, I have always done the personal project management role while he had the role of the boss/strategist. It worked because he respected me and my position. Since he has quit respecting me, these roles don't work as I am expecting him to be part of the process (which he hates).
I am willing to be patient as long as he is living in the same country; however he is still talking about leaving early-April and moving back to the US. (no dates/location/plans - yet). If he does go back to the US still in MLC, I will file for divorce; as I need to ensure financial security and I don't want him to choose the divorce jurisdiction. I have contacted a lawyer and got advice. This is far from ideal.
H: 48 Me: 47 Married: 19 yrs T: 20 yrs 2 teen-Ds and S H-MLC (started 2012) and H-Unemployed (11/2014) D-Bomb: 2/2015 H left country but hasn't moved out: 7/2015 I filed: 7/2015
