Yeah I can relate to that "losing yourself" thing, not knowing I was with a MLC'r until probably about 2-3 years after she first started .... as a fellow fixer... trying everything just to try to make them happy, to avoid the fights and meltdowns ... you do really lose yourself and honestly I became someone I did not really like, that lesson of "You can not fix them" was the hardest one for me ... I loved showing off my tool box, but had to accept that ... so I turned the focus on me and turns out Its alot healthier to constantly work on me and let the MLC'r do their thing.
