Good for you WII! You recognized your tendency to jump right in there & save her. But you stopped yourself. Even if you WERE in a relationship - this is her problem to solve. The I liken it to listening to my daughter & sin go on about their problems. I listen, sympathize & even offer suggestions but I'm not helping them if I bail them out.
I'm a new man lol. I've so far resisted the urge to text her and ask her how her day is going...I ain't her bf so I'm not gonna act like one. I did text her this morning and told her I was praying that all went well if she talked to her employer today. She thanked me and said she was planning to so this evening. So, I'll leave it to her...if she wants to share the outcome she can. The nice thing with her was that yesterday she told me "I just need to talk"...SDA lady would have been asking my opinion, what she should do etc. There's a huge difference. Anyway, spent the afternoon with my Mom downtown and then headed to the park to take some photos...lovely day.
AM texted me tonight. She's decided to give notice to her employer and she was waiting for them to come home so she could tell them. She told me she was very nervous and doing deep breathing. I told her that I'd been thinking about her tonight and she wrote "awwww, thanks for thinkin'!" Again, while she's waiting to quit her job it's me she contacts to wait with her. So, I told her "Wow, quitting is a big move but you know best what you need to do" ...she said her agency will find her another contract. Anyway, we shall see.
Wow, she's at the gym tonight and texting me...I'm thinking this is a good sign Is it normal for two people who aren't "dating" to be texting each other every morning and evening? I'm having such nice feelings...I'm kind of afraid they'll be taken away though. It may sound weird but when I get a simple "how was your day?" text I feel so good inside. Btw, she's spinning and running tonight. OK, enough Whatis lol!
So - what are you waiting for? It IS not unusual for 2 people to text - it shows interest. If you want to take it further - ask her out. It sounds like things are developing. Good luck.
Love is friendship caught on fire...I like that Kat I just hope I don't get burnt to a crisp lol. I'm ok with going slowly and seeing where it goes. Her culture around relationships is to go slow...and I mean slow lol! If you recall SDA Lady wouldn't let me kiss her for two months when we started dating. She finally relented when her bff told her "you're not dating in the Philippines so stop treating Whatis like you are! He doesn't understand!" So there's no rush here. It's not like online where there are a dozen other guys there for her to choose from. She likes me for whatever reason and I like her. We'll see. I've already suggested that we could have lunch on Sabbath where we could take our time and have some privacy but I'm not pushing it...it's her call. If we do that though she will be exposing our "friendship" or whatever it is to the other Filipina's and I know they don't like doing that early on. So who knows...all I know is that when a lady is out at spinning class and is thinking of me...that's a good thing
I should also mention that for the last while I've been praying that the Lord direct me to an Adventist relationship. What I've discovered over the past year is that our faith is also a culture. There's lots there that can make relationships outside the denomination difficult...not impossible, but difficult. AM and I have actually discussed this and it sounds like she dated (or maybe married) outside the denomination and she feels it's best to stay within the faith too. So it's interesting that somehow this person, whom I actually never really considered (although she's a very attractive lady) is suddenly becoming a person in my life. Hmmm...you go God lol.
Barb and kat are right. Relationships start as friendships so text away. And stop the self fulfilling prophecies and enjoy the moment. It is very interesting to read how a relationship develops. Pretty cool stuff.
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Is it normal for two people who aren't "dating" to be texting each other every morning and evening? I'm having such nice feelings...I'm kind of afraid they'll be taken away though. It may sound weird but when I get a simple "how was your day?" text I feel so good inside. Btw, she's spinning and running tonight. OK, enough Whatis lol!