Seperated -she is with someone, I'm desperate (3)

[vdubber]

Thanks Sandi, this helps. I can see now I said too much. I really need to think my responses through before communicating. I felt like I came across as an a$$ to her as I knew she wanted me to insist on her coming by but the reality is it would have been extremely uncomfortable for me and my older 2 kids who are aware she is seeing someone. Having said that I still feel a sense of hurt not seeing her on my birthday. I still have detaching to do.