Alpha and WAW - part 2

[alpha99]

Thanks complex, and everyone else, who has helped me through this last day. All your advice has been great. I just need to follow it. No more texts, I won't mention W coming out with us for tea on Thursday either. We spoke last night about sorting out a week by week arrangement for the kids. Since she is here today and my work is flexible I will try and get that set up for the next few weeks (as far as she has her shifts in advance).

I have felt I was doing really well all week long and then BANG, this came like a bolt from the blue. The problem seems to be compounded by her family who are pushing her along. They think they know all the legalities about the situation and that she is right in having the kids all the time, has full control over when I see them, can change schools, sell house, do whatever she likes basically, with no (or very little) regard for me.

Once she is in her house then maybe her folks influence will wain somewhat. She can be fiercely independent and I know because she's said that she doesn't like living at her mum's right now and having to follow 'her rules' but is doing so out of neccesity. Once moved she may resist her mother's controlling personality. I hope so anyway.

I am not going to pursue her anymore. Easier said than done it turns out, but I am going to give it everything to just hold back. I have a coaching session later today so that is good timing.

Complex, you said there are many other things I can do in the meantime whilst I feel like this. Did you mean GAL, distractions, reading etc as was suggested earlier, or do you mean something else. If there's anything else you could suggest I might do in the meantime then I would appreciate the comments.