I am listening, not just hearing! Today I had an appointment with a Police Liason Officer and Victim Support after ringing Gamanon care line. I went with my mentor.
I have three of H rants recorded, there has been discussion that H may be prosecuted as the abuse is considered serious. Whilst they can prosecute without my consent, they will not consider it unless I act as a witness.
Victim Support Counsellor considers H is escalating with his aggression and abuse and that it is recommended that I remove myself. The abuse is now 'on record'. So I have left and am staying in my Brighton flat, not ideal for work but I can cope. I shall look to stay with a friend whilst working at the office.
I feel relieved, the consensus seems to be that H will continue the 'cycle of abuse' if I am around. H may be cautioned it depends.
The VSC said she wished more abused parties had recordings of the abuse. I must also now keep repeating to H that unless he seeks help for his aggression and anger that there can be no R. This has to be a boundary.
Gamanon mentor helped me to compose a text, all concerned seemed to feel this was the best way of communicating with H.
V: LOL seems inappropriate to. It is unfunny to me I have taken advice and decided to remove myself as a target for aggression and abuse
H: the LOL was a mistyping for OK H: I am totally confused by you
V: I am feeling abused and a target for aggression. I am no longer going to be subject to domestic abuse
Thank you all, I am safe tonight
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
