Masterpiece still in progress...

[Jer2911]

I remember a convo I had similar with W ... about OM and I had to just sit there, contain the anger and listen to her talk about thier R like I was just a friend. I gained some valuable insight .. but also some troubling things.

Yes -- as soon as she started talking I instantly knew that I needed to just listen and not shut her down... even though I did have to hear some things that did make me feel uncomfortable. She did ask me to tell her if I started to feel uncomfortable about any topic and she would stop. I told her I would, but never stopped her even though a few things did hurt. I just knew and still feel very strongly that listening to her was the most important thing I could do yesterday.

So you still have a connection, she still shares things with you ... these are good signs.

But up until this weekend, she wasn't sharing much with me... So I feel like this is some progress. Not necessarily progress towards certain reconciliation -- but progress towards something... If nothing else, just a reconnection and perhaps her ability to trust me and feel safe talking to me again. Still such a long road ahead, but I'll take any teeny tiny bit of progress as it comes.

The OW being non local I think has its blessings and its downfalls ... as hard as it is, that R needs to run its course and I think not being right there all the time will just take a bit longer imho.

I agree -- it does need to run its course. I won't share everything she shared with me yesterday re: OW and the R, but let's just say there are a number of obstacles in their way (aside from the geographical distance) and while they both feel "drawn" to each other, a future together is a longshot and they both know it. So of course I am praying very hard for those obstacles to continue to grow so that this runs its course quickly.

In the meantime, I'll do my best to be her friend and be willing to listen when she feels like opening up to me.

Hang in there, you sound great and are handling this very well.

Thanks! Still having up and down moments, but definitely starting to feel more optimistic about the future for me and the kids. :-)