NC all weekend but did get a happy bday message this morning and asking of she can come by this evening with gifts the kids bought for me. I did not want her to buy me anything and already feel uncomfortable about this day. The truth is of course I want to see her but not put of pity or obligation as it's my bday. If i say no thanks I come off as an a-hole since gifts are "from kids", but having her by will be very stressful for me. Any advice?
M: 44 W: 45 Married 26 Together 28 D: 22, S: 18, S: 9, D: 7 S: 12/2013, seperate houses OM revealed first 10/2013, stopped seeing him OM revealed 1/2015, been going on for quite some time
