The W and I had a long talk about our sitch. She is facing two battery charges for attacking me. In this state, once charges are filed they cannot be dropped, so the county prosecutor is taking over. I told her that I do plan to testify if subpoenaed. She didn't like that. But as I said in Sandi2's thread, I am doing it for the following reasons:
1. I have to draw the line somewhere. Hitting is NEVER OK in my opinion. 2. I feel that if i let this go she will continue walking over me. 3. I am showing her "tough love".
The irony here is that she started using the same types of reasoning that I used right after the BD. "What about the kids?" "How can you do this to me?". She has also sent several text messages as well.
She swore that she was not involved in an A and that the picture(s) on her phone were that of a guy she has a crush on. She still didn't explain the card I found, but I didn't bring it up. She did say that the Latino guys from her office all hit on her, which gives her an ego boost. So that could explain why she dresses up nice for work.
I did meet with another attorney last week. I did screw up and I told the W what I was doing (we were trying to work out logistics for the kids). She immediately told me that she hadn't filed anything yet. I told her that I wasn't planning on filing anything either, but I was just going to get information.
She did call me out on moving my money to another account. She said she was going to do the same. I told her to go ahead. And we are also going to get separate cell phone plans (her idea).
As far as changes in the W: She has been more helpful with the kids. Her and S9 did a school project together last weekend. And she doesn't seem to get irritated when they ask her for stuff. She is less secretive with her phone as well. I'm not checking it anymore, but I do see it laying around when she is showering or otherwise occupied. And she spends less time in her room.
She is still dressing up nice for work. But she did say she plans on quitting that job.
I have also stopped bending over backwards with the housework. I do make sure the boys have everything they need. But I am not going out of my way to appease her as far as that goes.
I have really been bonding with S9 throughout all of this. I have come to realize that we have a lot in common and it has really brought us closer. I think he is really struggling with this and our bonding is helping him as well. S12 is different though, he is more reclusive and doesn't talk much. And I think he is starting to enter that phase in his life when he is wanting independence. However, both of them said they want to do more outdoor things this summer. So I am planning some stuff for us.
Now that it is getting warmer I am going to start training for the half marathon. Ran three miles yesterday.
