The "no-OM boundary" is best set in person because it imparts the seriousness and gravity of the situation to W. No more Betty Bo Beep for W in thinking that she's pulled the wool over your eyes.
When you're ready to pull the trigger, Starsky and I would be happy to lend our support in crafting a no-boundary statement in addition to some steps for you to take when you calmly talk with your W.
Just say the word and we'll be right here with you.