Mach1 | Thanks for stopping by. You're asking if what I'm doing is working. If it's a question about me, I'd say more or less. I need to step up the GAL and, by extension, the PMA. I'm also happy with the work I'm doing with IC and some books. If you're asking about the M, then I just don't know. I cut almost all communication with WAW. Last opportunity she got, she told me she's doing much better than in early February, thanks to taking up sports. So is she facing the consequences of her choice? Is she disillusioned by real life? I don't know. I try to trust the process and be patient.
I'm not asking for anything specific actually. Maybe just a generalization, an all encompassing question about life. If that makes sense.
However...
You seem to be answering "yes" to the most important aspect, and that is about you, and yourself.
Originally Posted By: Mozza
Detachment Report | I'm doing better than last week. In fact, the thought that's on my mind is that I shouldn't want her back. She is a serial cheater with unrealistic expectations of love who seeks external validation to be happy.
Shouldn't want her back ?
Because of ??
As long as you "think" in terms of judging her, you probably don't have to worry about her being back.
The journey that you are on, makes who she is, and what she is, irrelevant for now.
And it really isn't up to you to label her, judge her, or convict her of anything.
Stay true to yourself....it pays greater dividends in the end...
Originally Posted By: Mozza
It's unlikely that my changes, which are necessary, will be sufficient to keep her in the long run. The problem is with her. This being said, I'm in love with her and I'm quite certain I would fall for her charms should she ask for R. Also, there are the kids whom I would really love to see full time. And then five years later, I'll be back here, crying my heart out...
Your changes shouldn't be, just to "keep" her. Changes are about the things that you don't like about yourself. For you, by you, and about you.
And by making those changes...IF that attracts her back, then that is a side benefit in making them.
If she chooses to never be attracted to you again ??
Then you still hold the advantage by making those changes.
