I do have DR now, and I will read it again today, for sure. What I'd like to know is how to establish this boundary. I'm not sure what power I have... withdrawal? Unfriendliness? I don't want to see him, I don't want to talk to him, I don't want him flung in my face. What is a desirable way to set that boundary?
This morning she revisited the moment. "I didn't have to bring you the car," she said. "And you just took off without saying hi to me, without saying hi to him. Rude. That was totally rude. It is my car too, you know. And I've essentially given up the condo to you already because I don't spend much time here. When we're divorced you're only going to get one. So which one do you want? The car or the condo?"
I stopped the conversation there. We had established in MC last week that we weren't going to talk about D or R for two months, and as we left the MC office I suggested that we have a code word so that, in case either one of us started harping on D or R, we could say the code word and end it. So I did.
But she has already (re)written the entire episode as yet another example of my awfulness. Our next MC session is tomorrow-- this is the only thing that's really worth talking about (except for discussing her prior observations of how I could improve as a person), and I don't see why she would listen to or care about anything I'd have to say about it.
