Hi Toots. Don't sweat the snooping , it's done now so just move on. Very tough for you to read but again you read it and now you know how he feels at the moment. To be honest it sounds as if your H is in a worse place than you. You know how you H feels at the moment but his 'dream' is not the candy coated ideal he thought it would be For me your H is still struggling and from what I've learnt of Toots , your H is under the impression that Toots is not an option
Only Toots can decide if she wants to continue to stand or not. I truly believe Toots will be very happy again whatever she chooses and I'm looking forward to that day for her
