V, I'm so sorry to hear about your exchange with H. He is behaving abusively. That kind of behaviour is designed to make you feel small, to sap you of your self-confidence, knock you off course.

Do you want H to remain in the house any longer. Is it worth considering a boundary that you will share a house with him if he is pleasant and courteous. That convo was neither and if that behaviour continues, he will have to move out. It's up to him...

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus