Wayward is wayward. I didn't mean to make this complicated, my goal was to help make it more understandable for some newcomers. I am talking about two types of wives who walk away from the M. One type is not wayward, the other is.
Joe, I have already told you that your W is wayward. Your W may not have narrowed it down to one specific man, however, she has a broad spectrum. She doesn't have to have just one man. She has a variety of men. She is selling sex every night. You even found evidence in emails and where she had signed up on dating sites or in a chat room.
I have seen this, where the H goes into some kind of denial and tries to convince himself that his W really is doing nothing wrong. He thinks maybe his imagination and jealousy is in overdrive. I suppose that may be a natural respone, IDK. You are not imagining any of this. And here's the thing, Joe, if she had not crossed the line into waywardness, then she would give up that lifestyle for the sake of her M and for her kids. But it has a hold on her. She is as addicted as any A could do, b/c she gets the same thrill from her sexual contacts. And as with other addictive drugs, it requires more to get the same high the next time. That is why her sexual activities are have overlapped into other areas on the Internet. She is hooked, and now she is rebellious and defiant. She will choose this "job" over her H and kids, not b/c of the money but the addiction.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
