For Newcomer LBH with a Wayward Wife

[Joe46]

Thank you Sandi!! This just answered quite a few questions I was having. GREAT POST!!

I found a post from a guy on a different forum a month before I found this forum. He posted some things he learned from his WW. One thing that he said was after they had a big argument, he prepared himself for their separation. He acted as if she was leaving him. He started to think about what he needed to do. How he would take care of his kids. How he would go on with out her in his life. Once he started realizing he would be fine. It would hurt and be tough, but would get through it, he felt better about it. He acted "as if" they were separating. He moved on with his life. Stopped worrying about what she was doing. He said it did not take long before his wife noticed that she had pushed him to far and she was afraid she was losing him. She began to become more attached to him. He said at one point, she told him that she thought he could handle being without her better than she could handle being without him. Seems the rolls got reversed a little!!