katie444 quote: ...I am thinking he's the one really in control here.
In an SSM, the LD is always the one who controls the relationship. Before I read the book and joined this forum I knew nothing about HD or LD but I had my own theory. It was that in every R there is a "Kisser" and a "Kissed". The kisser is always looking for more love whether it be kissing, sex or what ever. The kissed is always trying to fend off the kisser. You can tell which is which simply by who makes the move to kiss the other when one leaves for work or returns from work. When my W leaves the house first, I always go to kiss her at the door (she offers me her cheek) and I nearly always wave to her as she drives off. When I leave the house she either ignores me or allows me to kiss her cheek. She never waves me off. So I am the kisser (HD) and she is the kissed (LD). SD
