The answer to that is lots...and nothing. W has made me an offer to buy her out of the house (good offer for me) and at the moment I've been getting alsorts of information and advice on how I could do that. Very similar to Toots in that a L told me I'd be better off D'ing W but it's not what I want. W is indifferent to my decision.
Small update. I went to see W yesterday. Not to talk about the R or say any of things I've mentioned above. It was to let her know that I have a bit of a problem in raising the money at this stage and that it's going to be at least a few weeks before I can sort it out (if at all). I also discussed the options with her again. I told her my thoughts on me filing against her and said that I didn't really want to do that when its not what I want, even if it's the "best" option financially and legally.
She said she can't help me make my decision but that all she wants is the �10k, nothing else. She will sign any agreement (legally binding or otherwise) to that effect. I'm certain now that the offer is so small out of guilt on her part. I can see it in her eyes. She said that if I thought that in not D'ing her, things would change, it won't (she doesn't KNOW that and neither do I though) and we're not getting back together. Again, she's talking in absolutes, which we all know WAS's do.
I've read up some more on the separation agreement and it does seem to be what I need to do to both protect myself and give me some more time. If W wants to D me at the end of the two years, then that's HER choice, not mine.
I still have some time to decide what to do, but right now, I think a SA is the way forward for me.
Barry.
Me 40 W 38 T 23 M 21 S21 S19 D16 S14 BD 19/12/2014 D mentioned 27/2/2015. I filed 08/04/2015, D Absolute 04/11/2015
